Be a gracious loser
YOU WIN some, you lose some - sounds like a trite aphorism but it is a harsh fact of life! For every winner there are at least ten who do not make it. It does not matter whether it is a prized top post in a company or a top rank in a competitive exam. How would you react if you were at the receiving end? Whatever the scenario, it is important to keep the perspective clear. It is important to remember that not everyone can get the top job. Granted that you have slogged and met all the targets and much more. But, then when the new promotions are announced, you are nowhere in the scene. What do you do? Do you:
Start shouting and yelling at the unfairness of it all?
Lock yourself up in your cabin and stay there the whole day?
Put in your papers?
Once you have cooled down, talk to the boss and check with him why this has happened?
Tell anyone who will listen, how unfair the whole system is and how you deserve much better?
Since this is not a survey about how much you can score for sensibility in such a situation, one thing is certain, you will deal with it the way you are made and the way your own sensitivities will allow you. But, if, of the five options given above, you tick on number four, then you have my vote.
Grace under pressure
Who wants to hear someone venting his spleen in public? Oh yes, there are a few who will spread the word around and will titillate their audiences for the next six months about how Mr. A blew his top! There will be snide remarks of all kinds and Mr A will find himself in a deeper quagmire than ever before! When you are angry, you are liable to say a lot more than you mean. Peppered with a lot of foul language, the blistering and scorching tirade can only be so much fodder for the rumour mills!
Being calm and handling your anger and frustration in a dignified manner scores you brownie points over and over again. It shows your maturity and raises your own self-esteem. Let's face it; grace under pressure is a far more pleasant sight than anything else. Control and constraint are the buzzwords!
It is more than likely that if you have been sincere and have done all that was expected of you, you would get your share of the recognition.
Wait and watch and bide your time. Meanwhile, look at all you have. If everything else is fine and you are happy with the kind of work you are doing and the perks that the company is giving you, then why crib? Enjoy it and be happy after all a measure of contentment will ease off the ulcers, which are plaguing you! But if the expected rewards are not forthcoming even after a year, then maybe you should start looking at other options. A new challenge always creates a great adrenaline rush!
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